marriage getaway sesi 03 sustaining healthy marriage

Keeping that thing, fun spicy in intimate and going and again, we're not in the business of surviving. We want our marriage to thrive look at Ephesians father. Love this scripture for husbands. This means love your wives just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean Washed by the cleansing of God's word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious Church Without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead she will be holy and without Out fall in the same way husband's ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies for a man. Who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it just as Christ cares for the church and we members of his body as the scriptures. Say, a man leaves his father and mother and his join. His wife. And the two are united as one. This is a great mystery but it isn't An illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again, I say each man, love his wife as he loves himself and the wife, much must respect her husband and just love that. The Bible is giving us definition how to keep this thing going and how they keep sustaining. Here's the first thing, he Right down the row. One serve one another 

You know, I think that serving looks different in a lot of different relationships around. Looks different in a lot of different cultures and homes. But serving one, another is an action and it takes courage to show action in relationship because what I have learned in 14 years and I don't have all the answer is that, there are a lot of times That I do not want to serve him because I've been serving kids and the home and the needs. And so sometimes it's very easy for me to give my spouse. My leftovers, and I have nothing left to give. And if I'm being honest, there has been an expression of I've used in our relationship where he is trying to connect with me, he's trying to have a chat. Chat with me at night and I am I I have nothing left to serve or to give the I think in the way that Christ has given everything an example of great generosity for us, it came from a place of love and it was his real. It was God's response to Father's. It's to send his love to give to us. And so I think sometimes in order for me to serve him, I have to first spend time with Jesus because then I get a revelation of love and then I'm able to be a dispenser of love to others. So in order for me to give give I have to get and I have to be able you know, we're on the plane and it says, you know, you have to first give The oxygen mouth mask to yourself, before you give it to your children, you have to be able to breathe. And to know that Christ is fueling you before. You're fueling your partner. So, in order to serve, I have to learn what it is to sit in his presence, but we have to serve one another. Yeah. It reminds me of a saying all marriage unhappiness. Is rooted in selfishness. And all there is happiness, is rooted in selflessness. So if you want your marriage to be great, rooted in serving, is it saying we say in church, if you're too big to serve, you're too small to lead and that's not just true for church. That's true for marriage. And so the moment you stop serving one another, the moment you start wanting to be served, it's like that. 

Illustration seem like a movie with some. Is feeding them grapes and someone's Fanny them and someone you know, loving them taking care of them in marriage. We're not looking to receive that, we're looking to do that. What would your marriage look like if you made a competition, who can out serve the other Because we service serving, when the, are you black? Jesus goes. Hey, I just want to make sure you guys call me the bastards, right? I'm the master they go. Yeah, you're the best, okay? If I'm the master and I washed feet, you should go to the safe, Jesus. The son of man said, I do not come to be served. I came to serve and to give my life as a ransom for many. So, Jesus is the model of sir. Serving one another. And the problem for most marriages is with selfishness is embedded or selfishness starts to be played out. Kiss It, Goodbye. All of a sudden, we got the conflict. We're at odds. We're we got animosity. We got, we got, you know, bitterness what? Because we got selfishness by the way. We've got a lot of children. I always thought Juliet, we have two too many. That's terrible. We better bring it to. We had two too many. But all four of my kids, not no one ever taught, my kids how to be selfish. They were born selfish. There are more to your old habits as yours. Yeah. They say, my, my, my point, my scream, my iPad, my mother. They think that she is this, she is my keep my kids out of my room all the time chat. No one, listen, you are born selfish, you are born again, generous, the spirit of God, the spirit of Jesus causes you to serve What we love the fruits of the spirit love joy, peace patience. Kindness goodness self-control all suffer. We love the, where's the fruit? Come from the root which is a relationship with the Holy Spirit and other words, you cannot walk with Jesus and be selfish in your marriage. Because Jesus will correct you. It's like reading the Bible. What I read the Bible, if I reading it or is it reading me? That's why I love. Second Timothy, 3:16. All scripture is god-breathed all scripture is god-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking correcting and training in righteousness. So that the man, one woman of God, may be fully equipped to do every good work. In other words for the bye. I was telling us when we read the Bible, it tells me what to do, what not to do and what to do when I haven't been doing, what I'm supposed to be doing. In other words, the Bible until you stop being selfish start being serving, Amen to that. So we cannot sustain and be selfish, we've got to serve one another right now. Number two, you gotta forgive one another Easier said than done. And I used to think that I was a quick forgiver. I always said, I'd get over things real fast, but I learned that real forgiveness takes a lot more work, and there were things that I didn't realize that I harbored in my heart, when Chad says, you know, we're supposed to love a supposed to keep no record of wrong, right? I had a long record. I have a written record. I, you know, I just, I knew he was so good with his words that he was such a good debater. And, you know, fire, I get kind of emotional because I would feel defeated. So he would just, you know, just get on like this little like momentum Trail. He go the hood and I would just begin to Tear up, because This is what I desire peace out of my eye. So I would cry and I would feel defeated and then I would just get loud so I would cry and get loud and it served no purpose but this is this is my tactic this was all I had this is all I have against you know with all the man of words here and so I finally was like okay I gotta get some skills, I got trained myself up to and so our first argument where I I got really bold and I started to communicate back to him like properly, debating, He Slipped to me and he smiled, I mean, this is just cruel and he starts clapping. I can work with unlike that, you know, you. But when we're born, I don't know if you have heard this before, we are born with two natural fear. Ears. Has anyone ever heard this before? We are born with the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises, and I really believe that God plays this within us at desire to be held and a desire for peace. And a lot of times that that's violated through relationship. No, maybe you're here and that was violated in a scenario where You were young and that happens to you and I am so very sorry and I am convinced that God wants to remind you that he is an example of a perfect father and the perfect person to trust and to love. But the thing is is sometimes and I grew up in a home where there was a lot of loud, there was a lot of noise and sometimes I wanted I wanted to just create peace so I would say A sure, I'm sorry, I forgive you because I just wanted this desire for peace, but what I didn't realize was that there was a need for real forgiveness to take place. Now, we have boys that love if you have driven here, have three or more boys in here, multiple boys. Now, these boys, they can get busy and now, they do not want to forgive one another. So we say, You know, tell him that you're sorry, I'm sorry. You know, I like that does not sound like you're sorry but we have to teach them what important is to actually forgive one another and to what it is to get a proper apology. Listen, I don't know if there's anyone in here who had an improper apology but you can feel it you know it in your bones when they when they eat they're saying I'm sorry but they're not really sorry and the kid they don't want to. I'm sorry, but we have to teach them and our kids model what we do. And so, we real forgiveness is evident to our children. They know what it is. They call our kids called squabbling, Mom, are you and Dad squabbling? I was like, what? What do you what do you mean squabbling? They're like, are you guys arguing? Because they can feel that there's not real forgiveness in. In the home. So good. I think you know, we have to remember that for forgiveness is a gift. And it is first a gift to you, it s to the other, you're giving yourself a gift you know what do they say about unforgiveness? Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other one to die and how foolish is that? So when you don't walk in forgiveness, you're affecting you more than anybody else and it's affecting your whole life. That's why Hebrews says the writer of Hebrews says do not. Let bitterness take root. Otherwise it will spring up and cause all kinds of trouble. That's why in most marriages are my debts. In this years ago we lose more marriages to offense than the you Affairs. There's more marriages that are lost. Over a fence. Over to cheating is you got to work? Like I don't need to be concerned about cheating. I think that CERN about you harboring unforgiveness, you got to let that thing go Ruth Grail, the great event of angels Billy Graham, his wife are said a great marriage. It's made up of two, great rivers. And for givers 

You know, it may be Who hardship, life years, kids finances, all that. Whenever you've dumped her, you lost your legs. You got to get your corrective lenses, back to see the good in the other person. Remember, your spouse needs to hear more of who they are. Not who they're not. They have to hear who they are. I love, I love your faith. I Love Your Excellence. I love the way you serve. I love the parent that you are. Oh, I love the way you cook. I love how hard you work. I love it. When you work out, they get to keep. You need to encourage glass with your word, power of life and death, and so see them in the like I love this first Petros, first Peter 3, I've of this up, summing it up. So, meet up be agreeable, sympathetic, loving compassionate, humble that goes for all of you, no exceptions, no retaliation. Ian, no. Sharp tongue sarcasm, instead bless. That's your job to bless. You'll be a blessing. And also get a blessing. Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day, fill up with good. Here's what you do, say, nothing, evil, nothing. Hurtful snuff, evil cultivate, good run. After peace for all your work, God looks on this with approval listening and responding well to what he says. Ask. But he turned his back on those who do evil things. And that's just good reading right there in the, you got it, you got it. What is God wants? Does God see your unrighteousness? 

He has hidden you in Christ, when God looks at you, he cannot even see your sin. He sees Jesus. He made him who knew no sin to become sin. For us that we might become the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. So God looks at me with love and smile because he sees Jesus. How do you look at your spouse? You see his dishes and you store all night? No you have to look and see the good. Yeah, it's I apologize. 

Number 5, laughs with one another. Let's all laugh together on the count of three, one, two, three. We have all seen the studies that laughing is the is good. For our physical body or mental, our mental stay our brain health. And last name is a choice is a choice. We had a unique prophetic word, be spoken over us, this last summer and just like the rest of the world. It's been a unique time for churches and for pastors and for leaders. These leaders of Business Leaders in the church within the last couple of years. And we've carried things heavier. We have thought about things and we haven't been able to live life as free and as full as we did before the pandemic. Now we had this word where this amazing worship leader. She kept saying over chassis that I'm getting this worse, Her soda and we're like the Sarasota Sarasota Florida. Please don't call us to Sarasota. Whatever you love the city of Los Angeles. Is she said I looked up and I thought this was unique in Sarasota means it's a time for dancing. And I thought that that was so unique because Chad is a average dancer. 

And but I bought it with also very specific because God had actually been speaking to me, privately about how we needed to dance in our home more. And this seems like something so silly and so specific. But we have this area and our kitchen. And so I told him I said, I actually think before we got this word, that there needs to be More dancing in front of the children. We need to dance with the children and I love that we started last night with dancer dancing because you can't help but smile even though it's not he active dancing, it's the action that leads to Joy or leads to laughter. It seems like we need to cultivate moments of simple silliness that create happiness and love. Levity and joy and laughter, within our homes and what our kids see, they see an action of choosing Joy. They don't see us talking about work, they don't see us talking about finances. They don't see us just doing the dishes and picking up. They see some abrasion and they see life and what does life and celebration give us. This is one Journey, it gives us energy within our spirit, it gives us ability to have just like the Proverbs 31 Woman, she smiles at the future because she knows that it's bright and beautiful laughter gives us Hope For Tomorrow a gives us the ability to see what. We cannot always see that there's good and there's Beauty on the others. Side. We do. We do this thing. So she's talking about our kitchen, you know? And so we let the boat. The boys are old enough to where, you know, they like certain songs, you know, like from Disney movies or whatnot, and so will that each of them, choose their songs will get, you know, Vol gets a song, I heard a song with boys, get salt and we'll play five songs and we'll just dance, the five songs in our kitchen, and it's become a source of connection has become a source of laughter. And I just love, I always held over two scriptures that God will turn our mourning into dancing. And I've always loved that. Those that sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. And of course, we all love the joy of the Lord is our strength, but I just love that idea of dancing. A celebration of festivity, we serve such a festive, God. He's so particular about parking. He's so in done it. And I wonder, you know, for a lot of berries is when you see disgruntled upset, angry married couples, I always think people go right away was the last time, you know, I would, I would go, was last time they laugh together. You know what? You need to go, see a comedian 

We're not doing good if she's slow to laugh at my jokes, how do you build your spouse's bad enough? But when I preach on Sunday you know who's laughing the hardest? You know, who I can, I can hear and see in my purse, my wife is, that's not the church. It could you imagine if on Sunday opportunist she's there like 

I mean we're telling the truth that doesn't happen. 

No, I think that what you're saying is so true is that we serve a God who is in celebration and I think that's what we're doing this weekend is that we are choosing to invest into our relationships but we're choosing to celebrate one. Another, how much fun is getting together and to laugh with one another to Divine. Another to enjoy each other's company. And I just love that are a, is not just to run quickly, but to run with endurance to finish, well, yes, to finish strong and to enjoy each other. And I want to say something, 

To grow better with age and a fine. Wine that hair. 

That's a college with her dad. He said, you know, he was messed up. We cont when he first found salvation, he walked out of the Jesus movement meeting. He walked out. He said, he felt he could flip over a car for Jesus. Here's the same arms of me. He does not, he cannot flip over upon. He felt like he was so excited. That is salvation. That is marriage. Cannot lose the joy of being married. So, this weekend is about, I say, thank you, God, for the greatest gift, you've given me outside of Salvation, and that is my spouse. Amen, to that for the gifts that you have given us. We are grateful for these relationships that are represented every marriage, every home, every family that is represented. Here today, that we just thank you that you are blessing and refreshing that we just thank you right now that you are speaking to couples and individuals about how they are going to commit to pursue one another that we thank you for this time that we have together and with you, in Jesus name. Amen. 

marriage getaway session 02 building healthy marriage

Chad veach and julia veach

Building a beautiful marriage

Session 2

And that evening he decided in this heart and I would have gone on a journey to decide when we just talked about the journey real fast. I have to really pursue her. So the first time I gave Julia a hug, she patted me on the back the first time I told her I love you. She said, thank you. The first time you I actually started to say, I love you. I can see the words coming out of your mouth and I went like this. So then he went from. I loo, I don't know if you remember this, but you said I only wear you, like, I'm just kind of you rolled the word in something else. Yes, it was more work to be done. So eventually I became ready. Eventually she warmed up to the idea and we got engaged and we were married. On September 21st. Now this is significant because there's a song by Earth Wind and Fire that reads. It's in our living room. I can't Yes, it's gonna be beautiful Journey. 14 years, we just celebrated September 21st February, 14 years and if we're being transparent to firstborns, that are very strong filled with Different Ambitions coming together, and laying down their lives to serve one another. It's been an adventure filled with disappointment and delay. We had a diagnosis within our home of our firstborn child. That was a real test and our marriage. We've had three additional boys. That Source. Local folder with that. Let me just explain you. This is the youngest to oldest. That's our four-year-old Clive, he's praising God. That's Maverick saying what's up? That's wisdom of. Yeah, and that is our Miracle daughter. Georgia who she turns 11 Borrow it. So that's all for kids right there. Well technically it's her birthday today here, so here. Yes, yes, December 2nd. That's where we're at and for beautiful Miracle children and 14 years of a lots of things learned and a lot of just recognizing God's goodness. Yes, and his faithfulness and I just want to let you guys know that we are a product of just surrendering to Jesus every day. Every week saying God, we don't have all the answers, but we choose to put you at the center of our relationship and in the Centre of our homes. And we just have a lot to be grateful for. Yeah, you go just as your cigarette, makes me think both of us are pastors, kids are Our dads, eventually went from youth pastors to senior pastors their life's really mirror one another. And when I was growing up, I get did a lot of weddings, and he would always take us kids to the weddings because of the free lunch, and we're going to a wedding. Again, this is how you're eating today. Has he always had this? I would always tell him, I don't think that's a good one. I don't think we should do that one, but he would always do it and he would look at the God every wedding. He would look at this guy and he would say today, I would like to welcome you to your funeral in the church. Did that today? You die today for your marriage to do well, Well, you have to die to yourself. And isn't that the message of our faith and to follow Jesus? You must pick up your cross daily and deny yourself, and follow God. So that's for your faith. But that's also for your family. That's also for your marriage, is that you must die. And so, I think what Joy is saying is you, I've had to learn how to die again. I was 28 shoot. At 25, I was already been in the ministry for almost a decade and you get habits of being single. And so she had to decipher me in the fact. So I had to learn how to say. I'm sorry, I'm wrong. I love you can all the men, say, Amen. To that woman, that was a word for somebody like that. I'm sorry I'm wrong. I love you have to turn that into a song. 

To talk about in this first session, you write down the title building a beautiful marriage. That's really our goal. That's why your pastors have invited you to this amazing Retreat. That's the goal of becoming like Jesus. So what is the standard of mirrors? The standard of marriage is not me and Julia or anyone in this room. The standard for marriage is Jesus and the way he serves his bride and the way that he loves his bra and that is what he does. This to create a beautiful Ride a radiant bride, and that's what we want. That's what we're laughing, and having jokes and admitting faults. And we're going to be honest with you, we want to share what we've learned in 14 years. But let's just all make the decision together. We want to build a beautiful marriage. We don't want to marry just like suffering, kinda like how God he didn't create us to survive, he created us to thrive. This is John 10:10, the three things scripture for our church, Zoe Church the the Greek word for Abundant Life is Zoe and what is Jesus saying? John 10:10 the evil one comes to steal kill and destroy but I have come that you might have life and have it love. More abundantly Abundant Life. So for our marriages, that is why our marriage to live along. We're barely making it. We can't stand each other. We're fighting were bickering. We've got, we've got all kinds of issues. We want to build a beautiful marriage just as Christ wants to build a beautiful marriage partnership with the bride of Christ. So let's talk about building. Let's read in Matthew 7. We were thinking about this verse here, reaching the end. Ephesians 5 and change. Does Matthew said we like this a little bit more, therefore, whoever hears these sayings of mine and does them. I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock, and the rain descended and the floods came and the winds blew and beat on that house and is not falling for it. Was founded on the Rock. I was here a little Sean Connery, I'm wrong. 

All the rock. It will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand and the rain. Descended the floods came and the winds blew and beat on that house and it fell and great was its fall. When I think about how great was his fault, makes me think of divorce. And great is the aftermath great is the effect. Great is the Fallout brain is the damage. So we want to build Roger that saying relationships require work and when you stop working, they stop working. You got to build. You got to make the decision that I'm going to build a beautiful marriage. Anybody needs say that you come to this Retreat and that's your prayer. You want your marriage to be more beautiful and look more like Jesus. Amen. So where you give you a few things to write down to encourage you. Here's the first point point number one today, build It on Jesus. By the way, can we clap for the worship? Team? That did such a great job, the whole team. Song. Jesus at the center. Nothing else matters. So we're building our lives and we're building our marriages on the person. Jesus, he is the foundation Psalm 118. What does it say the stone that the builders rejected for us has become the Chief Cornerstone. So our whole lives are built on Jesus, and we talked about building on Jesus, his mission, his vision, his values, his standards, we want to be like Jesus. I don't think your marriage has a shot without Jesus, but Jesus is the center piece because the storms are going to come, the issues are going to happen. The disappointments of life. We have a friend who, you know, is in his 50s and just went through a terrible tragedy and he is just like, in need of Jesus and he said, open at this point. Nothing bad has happened to him, his whole life. Nothing bad 50-some years old, but this bad thing that happened. Brought him to Jesus brought him to church because when the storm comes, what is it? Bill on, when the issues happen, what is it? Bill option. So, we want to make the decision before the storm comes. It would be a terrible thing to try to build your marriage in a storm. We build listen, when we got our diagnosis for our daughter, Georgia, we weren't trying to figure out what we believed about. God, we were trying to figure out About what the Bible said. We were trying to put some Foundation together. We had laid a foundation. We trust God, we will obey God, we will have faith in God. We love God. No matter the season, no matter the storm weather we had. That's why we stay in front of each other. And you make the vows in sickness and in health in rich and poor anybody, you've had some poor days. Let me see them hands and you know what I mean. To be content with a lot. But you will have to be content with the little we made these vows to each other. So, no matter what we say, no matter what we go through, were building our marriage, on the person, and the faith of Jesus. If your marriage is built on Jesus, you can face bankruptcy, you can face sickness, you can face keep leaving the faith. You can go through anything. It's all built on Jesus if it's not going on. Jesus. When that storm comes? I think it'll be too late and you live in a world of regret. And I wish we were in church and I wasn't going to serve God. And I wish we would have tied and I wish we would have prayed. I wish. No, listen church, services are awesome. And there's a beautiful presence here, but what matters is not Not what happens in the retreat. What matters is what happens in the home and building our lives, in our marriages, on the person of Jesus. It's also the go, you know what, a beautiful presence in song. But practically what does that look like? That looks like us. What did he say? Whoever hears these sayings of mine and does them. So in our homes, in our marriages, we've got to be like Jesus forgive like Jesus, loved Of like Jesus serve like Jesus. Talk like Jesus compassion, like Jesus act like Jesus. We're not blessed. If we hear the word, we are blessed. If we do the word, any man, that hears, the word doesn't do that. He says the marriage. So we put into practice God's word and it I just loved so much with the pastor's were talking about last night about How the commitment of this church of jpcc to invest into Godly, marriages that are strong. And we want the church to be radiant. Jesus wants his church, the bride groom to be beautiful and he loves his bride. But the but the reflection of the church comes from the quality of the marriage. 

Look like and what the family's look like. And if we want our unsaved co-workers and our broken family members that don't know, the love of Christ to be able to experience. We don't always need to get them into the house. We need to show them. What does he say? They need to know who he is by our love and it needs to start with our love with one another. Other and we know so many people that have relationship failures, but we want to look like the quality of our relationship is so rich and so beautiful that people are like men who do you know that has allowed you to look like that. And I just, I am just so impressed with the commitment that you picked got here. You guys made it. I hear that you are investing into your time with one another and I think that number two, we need to keep the pillars in our relationship strong. So yes, we build on Jesus. That how many? No one's ever renovated a house. The foundation is expensive and we have renovated our house down to the studs. We've torn everything apart. We did new flooring, new drywall, new cabinets, new They the weirdness without Foundation. We even got a soil report to know how good the quality of the ground was cc'ed. Is cheapest soil, is expensive. Foundation is expensive. We need to start with getting the main things, the main things protecting it investing into it, making sure that strong Wrong. What are the pillars of your relationship? Maybe you're here and you're like, I need to work on how we communicate to one another. I need to work on being kinder to one another. I think that we need to, we're all a product of our values. I think that we need to pause this weekend and look at one another and say, what are our pillars? What are our main things? How can we get our foundation strong once again? And let me encourage you. Maybe there's flat there's there's fractures, maybe there's cracks within your foundation goodness today that God that we serve he is a specialist in broken things and he's more and more beautiful than it was before. So maybe you're here and you like you you don't know how big the fracture or the crap in our foundation is good news today we serve a God. Who is a great physician who's a surgeon that he meant the most broken of hearts. And I am believing and my prayer is that where there is present that there is a God that can just breathe Breathe and meant the biggest crap within our foundations, but let's invest into the pillar. Let's allow those things to be strong and within those. Those pillars that in our relationship that we've chosen, those three things are trust, respect and communication. Those are the pillars. Those who have Foundation that we've laid that we've chosen to make sure that we protect and we invest. And we keep strong at the bases, because I think that, you know, the problem is, is that, what is the old saying about, trust trust takes years to build and seconds to lose it. So you always want to be making decisions that build trust with your spouse. So something very practical that we do is in the, I don't know if this is for a divisions, like it is Americans, but I could tell our guys. Hey, guys, your wife has All The Pastels that everything in your world. Every count your phone email, there's nothing customer, you know, a lot of times in night, our llovera Julius, you know just catching up on do I text today and it's not bad. It's just going back, you know? I'm just saying who you know what's going on baby? Make a dinner plates because I know you'll forget to tell me probably but the reality is that you can't build trust and have secrets of the same time and so we Have No Secrets. A great way to build your marriage. All this is a saying and you can build practically all the lights are on all the doors are open. So, we built on trust. So of course we trust God but in your spouse, do you trust your spouse and then respect, you know, it's so funny because Julie will often rebuttal to this because they say we read Merritt Rooks adult women. Want love man. Walk respect and Julia. Will always say I won't respect you though. I don't know, a girl that's like yes, disrespect me. How about we just love each other and respect each other. This is pretty simple. It's so can we tell the story of fast about when I chose my heavenly over you? When we first got married? Just real fast on that. I'm going to real think when just real fast. Real fast. Yeah, you're not exposing yourself. You're exposing me ownership over my problem. Over my wife, the two shall become one. And I'm over, you're siding with my mom and I learned that day the mistakes you can make in marriage. I wasn't respecting your mom verbally. You actually stood in front of her to come on child. 

Respect and your stairs moves, you can make that breed or build respect, there's nothing worse. Want to Cripple your marriage, disrespect each other, you want to you want to cause one of the you or the other person and I want to come home, you know the life of disrespect but respect really Breeze. A well it's an honor spirit. We talked about in the next session. But owner is everything in America. So, trust respect. And the last Miller is communication. And listen. You cannot have a great marriage and be a bad communicator. Say it again, for the people in the back, you cannot have a great marriage and be a bad communicator. And by the way, communication is not just text. Have you ever read a text in Black who are an angry elf, you know, they're hungry. I think it would be great for you. All in your barracks, all your texts, read read them like they're smiling when they wrote it. She was smiling as she said, pick up the milk but communicate effectively not just what your words. We teach our boys that say all the time it's not what you're saying that matters, it's how you're saying it and so I can make Julia be so excited about life and what we're doing or I could absolutely get her discouraged. So we build it on the colors. It's crust, respect communication. I don't want to say that, you know what, we're all here to get some hacks and maybe this is a half that doesn't apply to you, but I will say one of the hats of helped us and that's like if it has not translating, it's cheap in the area of communication. If there's a lot of things that I want to communicate to him and there's a lot of things as busy season, we work. Together, we have children together. We run the other businesses together and we have a lot to go through in one day and now, listen, if we're tired, if we're emotional, if we're hungry, if we're angry, if we're hungry for all the things, it's not always the time to communicate that I actually need to move the ball forward. So, we have four years. We've been emailing and now sometimes, because Jesus is not awake yet, and we're sipping on our coffee. The early in the morning, sometimes, we will sit in our kitchen. First thing in the morning across from each other in the kitchen and we will email each other back and forth. Sometimes there's been different ways. Is that we've communicated. So sometimes it's been through emails. Sometimes it if he's traveling the commitment to communicate to stay close and to stay connected because change the three always been a commitment to take inventory and to assess our communication, and so maybe in Sun Season, we need creative communication, like emailing. Sometimes we need to sit in front of each other and to express. We feel we did the session one time with a therapist and I had to communicate to my husband, how God would communicate to him so awesome. I had to look at him and I had to say through the lens of your heavenly father. This is, this is how I seek you. And this is how I love you now dead. The sweet, a therapist have him do this back to me. No, Chad was his favorite. I agree. That was the last time you saw him, but I explained to him how the love of the father had a, he is sink and he didn't have to. And then in the closing session, I'm really, I don't you talk in circles here. This is what this rabbit, remember. But at the end, I had to pray over my husband and he did not have to pray over me. 

So we're building it on, trust respect communication. We're building a Jesus and we're building a beautiful marriage. Here's the third thing, right down Point number three is know what you're building identify. What are you? What is your vision? What if you know it's the whole thing about success we want to successful marriage. What is it successful? You cannot Success without Vision. The Bible says, my people perish because of lack of knowledge or another. Another verse that comes to mind is where there is no prophetic Vision. People cast off restraint, you need vision and vision comes from God and if you can see it you can achieve it. If you can see it you can you can you can go for it but you've got to first see it. That's why the Bible says write down the vision. Make it plain. So the one that That's running with the vision, can read the vision. So we've got to get on the same page and we've got to ask each other. What kind of house do we want to have? What are the values? It's in America, you see this a lot, you go to somebody's house and they have a beautiful piece of art and it almost always starts with this saying in this house we do. And then they'll say, we do long walks on the beach dance parties at night. Forgiveness, Second Chances. Has you know big meals in this house. We do you need to have what do you do in your house? What is your vision? What are you building in this last year? Both both her father and my father last year they told they both told me how much they want to have in reserves when they had when they pass away. And they told me that person's problems a righteous man leaves an inheritance. 

An unrighteous man leaves a mess pills. No, will where did the assets go? Who gets what questions? Or I read it yesterday in my devotional. Some sins of people there. Obvious others, follow them. So do you want to pass away and the kids find out you have another family? 

You better things in order, you can't get things in order to have an organization. So, both of them told me, this is how much they want to have in reserves, so we can leave an inheritance. They did both of our parents are both of our dads are about 66 67. They didn't at 60 years of age go. This is what we're going to do know, they started as young men. Having the vision to say, this is what we want our children to walk in. This is what we want our marriage to. To look like so you've gotta identify what do we want to build and by the way what you're trying to build doesn't always mean that's what we're trying to do. There's an old saying about marriages never compare your marriage to another. Comparison is the thief of joy and so why would I prepare our marriage to her Heritage? We We Didn't Start where you started. We don't have the same personality types. We don't come from the same families who don't even speak the same language. So I'm not going to compare how healthy or unhealthy yours is compared to mind what I'm trying to build is what God put in our heart. But I tried to build is the vision that we say. Down. And we said, you know what, let's build this kind of house. Let's build. These kind of children. Let's build this kind of vacation. Let's go after, and then we stay focused on what God has for us. I also think that in order to know what your building, you have to know, not only Who You're Building wet, but you have to know your role in the partnership of the Being project now, I referenced the renovation. Now, we know our roles. We are not the people that are the contractors laying down on the floor. Like, we understand that we have designed and put we understand our specific and unique role. When we were building the house. I go, I don't buy roll. You go on the adventures. I paid for them. 

There has to be a strong sense of identity. You know, there is such an attack from the enemy to come it against your identity to come against your confidence to come against your mind. And when we are waiting word in our thoughts of, not knowing our value, not knowing our purpose as an individual, that affects the plan. We're building together because now we're two broken people trying to produce a broken product and instead of committing to being a whole person. I can't know where I'm going and less. I know who I am. And then order to know who I am. I have to have an anchor in the foundation in the Rock and which I stand on. So, outside of my relationship, I have to have a A Unapologetic devotion and individual relationship with Jesus Christ. Because when my daughter was sick, when she had a diagnosis, when, when it was hard in our home, I couldn't be held by my husband's arms, I had to be wrapped in the arms of Jesus because he wasn't there every day when I was home with a daughter who was really sick. Check who is having seizures 50 times a day. I had to lay on the floor and say Jesus. You're the one that holds me a and you're the one that makes me whole. And when I come to my husband, we can say, hey, in our private time, we committed to become whole individuals, so we can together build something whole, and we can build something for our children. We have to know that when we walk in that purpose and when our marriage has a mission and has a focus, we do who were going in with and that gives us all the confidence in the world. Yeah. I think what you're saying is great and it reminds me, you know, that you're married. Your spouse is either your greatest burden or your greatest blessing. And so, the reason Why we love each other and serve each other is because you play a part and then being a burden or a blessing. The two shall become one. So when they suffer you something when they do, well, you do well in the stronger, your personal identity is that easier is to come together as one and there's nothing worse than competition within a marriage. Competition within a marriage. By the way, your spouse cannot complete you. But they can't compliment you. It's so if you have a strong identity, it gets easier to build the vision that you have vision is pretty easy, to be honest, God has a vision. So the vision is not the hard part from being honest, you're here, you're going to Vision. So to what do you say in these last days of Court? My spirit? Well, what happened Sons? Daughters prophesied, old men dream dreams, this is on the hard part, the Third part is building it together from a place of help from a place of wrecks. The I love that one. So we're building that we know what we're doing right down the reform protect your house. I always love that verse cats cross the little foxes that spoil the what the whole Vineyard, it's not big things that are going to take out your bandage is little things that are going to take that your marriage, it's little comments. It's a little compromise. Is a little white lie. It's a little rolling of the eyes. That didn't know Bears have come on your door, knock on the door, car will take out your marriage, but some leaky faucet, some slithering snakes. Some Judas behavior is going to take out your hair. So we must at all cost, protect our marriage. We protect our marriage bed, we protect our bedroom, we protect our home, we protect one. Another years ago I went through, To a class called authentic manhood. And this guy was teachings from Arkansas, which is the south in America, and he said all the men you are designed by God to do these things. You are the provider, you are the protector. You are the priest in the fourth, when I won't say, because I thought it was disgusting. But the first three, I resonate with your of the use your imagination, your the free. All men you are the spiritual leader of your house. You are a spiritual priest of your home, so you can pursue the provider and you're the protector. So our homes, feel great, when we lead and protect our spouse, and we don't just, I'm not, you know, some macho guy walking around protecting my house. Who wants to mess with my family? I'm the, it's not that it's protecting our hearts. Protecting our purity. Protecting our eyes or my boys are boys. You know, our boys are nine, seven, four and half of my life is telling them. We're not gonna watch that. We're not watching that. Look, you can't watch that. Nope, we don't answer that. And why do I say that to my voice? Because my job is their dad is to protect their eyes and to project their use in your marriage, attacked Your Love, protect your house, protect protect one, another protect from offenses. This is a very big at church 2. By the way in church, his church is an opportunity for a fence. There's a scripture products where the where there are no oxygen? The chalk is clean translation. If you got more people, you got Mo Problems. So when the church that jpcc is going to be all kinds of opportunity for offense. So when I get offended with some Joker at church, do you think I come home with my spouse and say, you know, Ted was saying this and Ted was saying that and Ted Blah, blah, blah. And Spew all that to my spouse, I protect her from offense. I protect her. So that's one record. What we've got to protect our homes from the attack of the enemy. It's listen, it's okay. If the attack comes from the outside, it just cannot come from the inside. So we protect the purity of our relationship, both from the inside and the attack from the outside. So we that we hear thousands and thousands to be specific, it's 40,000 negative thoughts, and one day. And With every negative thought we need to cover it with multiple positive thoughts. Now, it is natural because we know this person the most, we know, all of our flaws. We know all of our strength. It is easy for us to let down our guard and to speak comfortably and just speak transparently, but we need to be ones that speak life and Stu speaks. 

Learning and to speak promise over one another now. Would you like to give me an example of what you would like to speak to me today? You know yet I just want to say that. Your first of all you're beautiful and I love going on adventures with you and is active service. So I like to respond to a prove it 

And those who love it, will eat its fruit. Six sticks and stones may break my bones. But words will never hurt me. What a lot. You have the power to make your spouse. Fly or suffer. You realize you can make your spouse feel like a million bucks or a person in debt. Your words, James goes, this little Rudder controls. The whole ship. I wonder how your words are affecting your spouse constant. Criticism creates constant insecurity. So that's sure what's the law opposite constant? Praise creates constant confidence. Let's build our lives and build our marriages, amen. Father. 

Kotbah 6 November 2022 Ps Sidney Mohede as for me and my house

 kotbah 6 november 2022

as for me and  my house

ps sidney mohede

weekly verse

1 petrus 4:10

Layanilah seorang akan yang lain, k  sesuai dengan karunia yang telah diperoleh tiap-tiap orang sebagai pengurus yang baik l  dari kasih karunia Allah.

sermon
lukas 22:24-27

22:24 ¹ Terjadilah juga pertengkaran di antara murid-murid Yesus, siapakah yang dapat dianggap terbesar ^h  di antara mereka. 22:25 Yesus berkata kepada mereka: "Raja-raja bangsa-bangsa memerintah rakyat mereka dan orang-orang yang menjalankan kuasa atas mereka disebut pelindung-pelindung. 22:26 Tetapi kamu tidaklah demikian, melainkan yang terbesar di antara kamu hendaklah menjadi sebagai yang paling muda ⁱ  dan pemimpin sebagai pelayan. ^j  22:27 Sebab siapakah yang lebih besar: yang duduk makan, atau yang melayani ² ? Bukankah dia yang duduk makan? Tetapi Aku ada di tengah-tengah kamu sebagai pelayan. ^k 

Melayani bukan hanya di hari Minggu, melayani adalah tindakan self less selalu melayani orang lain bukan kehendak diri kita sendiri.

Belakangan ini banyak orang sibuk dengan cara mempromosikan diri sendiri. kita hidup di jaman skrg dimana orang mau mendapatkan kemudahan / akses dengan minim usaha. Yesus sangat mengajarkan sesuatu yang sangat bertolak belakang dengan budaya kita skrg ini. Tapi di antara kalian, orang yang plg banyak melayani adalah pemimpin kalian. 

If you want to be great, you have to serve. 

Matius 20:28

anak manusia datang bukan untuk dilayani tapi untuk melayani. dan menyerahkan nyawaNya untuk membebaskan banyak orang

Tindakan melayani adalah membuat orang yang kita layani terlihat baik dan istimewa. Contoh melayani keluarga : membuat keluarga look good and special

Apalagi jika kita berkata kita melayani Tuhan kita. apalagi kalau kita menunjukkan kebaikan Tuhan dalam hidup kita. Kita teringat pelayanan seorang staf karena kita membuat orang tersebut merasa istimewa. 

Serving at the core is always selfless not selfish

Melayani berarti mementingkan orang lain. 

matius 16:24-26

16:24 Lalu Yesus berkata kepada murid-murid-Nya: "Setiap orang yang mau mengikut Aku, ia harus menyangkal dirinya, memikul salibnya ¹  dan mengikut Aku. ^q  16:25 Karena barangsiapa mau menyelamatkan nyawanya, ia akan kehilangan nyawanya; tetapi barangsiapa kehilangan nyawanya karena Aku, ia akan memperolehnya. ^r  16:26 Apa gunanya seorang memperoleh seluruh dunia tetapi kehilangan nyawanya? Dan apakah yang dapat diberikannya sebagai ganti nyawanya?

dapatkan hidup itu ditukar dengan sesuatu?

Saya ingin membuat Tuhan terlihat hebat

Kita harus mengambil sifat seorang hamba

Melayani bukan sesuatu yang kita kerjakan, tapi tindakan yang mencerminkan siapa diri kita

Kita adalah hamba. Melayani Tuhan dan sesama 

saya seorang pelayan Tuhan yang juga berbisnis

Kalau kita menyadari kita pelayan Tuhan, serving is in our identity, DNA

mempunya sifat hati seorang hamba adalah keputusan / pilihan dalam setiap saat kehidupan kita

Apakah kita membuat orang yang kita kasihi merasa spesial?

Waktu membuat keluarga merasa saya spesial itu adalah sebuah pelayanan

Bucin - seseorang yang rela berkoban apa saja untuk pasangan yang dicintainya

Mau melayani tanpa pamrih

Ketika peduli kepada keluarga itu adalah pelayanan saya kepada mereka

Perhatikan apa yang orang lain katakan, ttg apa yang selalu mereka katakan

Saat kita melayani sesama kita sedang melayani Yesus Kristus

Bagaimana kita melayani Tuhan di zaman skrg?

1. Mengikuti keTuhanan nya atas hidup kita

Kita hidup di bawah kedaulatan Tuhan 

 Kita sering lupa bahwa Dia adalah Tuhan dan raja atas hidup kita

kita harus tunduk pada otoritas

1 korintus 6:19-20

Atau tidak tahukah kamu, bahwa tubuhmu adalah bait Roh Kudus yang diam di dalam kamu, Roh Kudus yang kamu peroleh dari Allah, – dan bahwa kamu bukan milik kamu sendiri? Sebab kamu telah dibeli dan harganya telah lunas dibayar: Karena itu muliakanlah Allah dengan tubuhmu!

dunia mengajarkan kita memiliki hidup kita

kita entitle atas hidup kita sendiri, bisa melakukan apa saja meskipun merugikan sekalipun

2. menyelaraskan agenda dan pikiran kita kepada Tuhan

yesaya 55:8-9

55:8 Sebab rancangan-Ku ^p  bukanlah rancanganmu ¹ , dan jalanmu bukanlah jalan-Ku, ^q  demikianlah firman TUHAN. 55:9 Seperti tingginya langit dari bumi, ^r  demikianlah tingginya jalan-Ku dari jalanmu dan rancangan-Ku dari rancanganmu. ^s 

kita harus terus mengakui bahwa jalan Tuhan itu benar dan terbaik dalam hidup kita

ini yang disebut sebagai pertobatan dalam hidup kita dan dapat dicapai dengan bantuan RK

Roma 12:22

Janganlah kamu menjadi serupa ^h  dengan dunia ⁱ  ini, tetapi berubahlah ²  oleh pembaharuan budimu, ^j  sehingga kamu dapat membedakan manakah kehendak ^k  Allah: apa yang baik, yang berkenan ^l  kepada Allah dan yang sempurna

melayani adalah menyenangkan orang lain bukan diri sendiri

cara kita berpikir akan menentukan cara kita bertindak

Kita harus selalu berhati hati untuk menentukan bagaimana cara kita berpikir

3. Melayani Tuhan berarti melakukan kehendak dan mentaati perintahNya

yohanes 14:15

Jikalau kamu mengasihi Aku, kamu akan menuruti segala perintah-Ku 

menuruti SEMUA perintah Tuhan bukan hanya yang kita suka saja

Dia yang terlebih dahulu baik dan setia terhadap hidup kita

Iman yang benar selalu menerjemahkan dirinya sebagai tindakan yang baik

yakobus 2:17-18

2:17 Demikian juga halnya dengan iman: Jika iman itu tidak disertai perbuatan, maka iman itu pada hakekatnya adalah mati ¹ . ^q  2:18 Tetapi mungkin ada orang berkata: "Padamu ada iman dan padaku ada perbuatan", aku akan menjawab dia: "Tunjukkanlah kepadaku imanmu itu tanpa perbuatan, ^r  dan aku akan menunjukkan kepadamu imanku ^s  dari perbuatan-perbuatanku. ^t "

efesus 2:10

2:10 Karena kita ini buatan ^a  Allah, diciptakan ^b  dalam Kristus Yesus untuk melakukan pekerjaan baik, ^c  yang dipersiapkan Allah sebelumnya. Ia mau, supaya kita hidup di dalamnya.

melakukan hal baik ini menunjukkan bagaimana kita berperilaku bukan sekedar pelayanan di gereja

Kisah 9:36

Di Yope ada seorang murid perempuan bernama Tabita – dalam bahasa Yunani Dorkas. Perempuan itu banyak sekali berbuat baik dan memberi sedekah.

perhatikan apa yang orang lain bilang selalu kita lakukan

melayani hanya suatu tindakan melainkan sebuah identitas

iman yang benar harus diterjemahkan ke dalam tindakan yang baik. kalau tidak, itu sama sekali bukan iman dalam melayani Tuhan dan sesama

2 timotius 3:16

Segala tulisan yang diilhamkan Allah memang bermanfaat untuk mengajar, untuk menyatakan kesalahan, untuk memperbaiki kelakuan dan untuk mendidik orang dalam kebenaran.

apa sikap kita sudah mencerminkan kita sebagai hamba Tuhan?

kotbah 30 oktober 2022 ps jose carol tidak sesuai rencana

Kotbah 30 oktober 2022

Agenda Tuhan : tidak sesuai rencana

Ps jose carol

Yesaya 55:8-9

Sebab rancangan-Ku bukanlah rancanganmu, dan jalanmu bukanlah jalan-Ku, demikianlah firman Tuhan. Seperti tingginya langit dari bumi, demikianlah tingginya jalan-Ku dari jalanmu dan rancangan-Ku dari rancanganmu.

Yesaya 55:8‭-‬9 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/isa.55.8-9.TB

Saat hidup berjalan tidak sesuai dengan rencana

Bagaimana merespons terhadap kejutan

Tetapi seperti ada tertulis: “Apa yang tidak pernah dilihat oleh mata, dan tidak pernah didengar oleh telinga, dan yang tidak pernah timbul di dalam hati manusia: semua yang disediakan Allah untuk mereka yang mengasihi Dia.”

1 Korintus 2:9 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/1co.2.9.TB

Saat menaruh iman pengharapan yang baik termasuk visi dan mimpi yang datang pada setiap kehidupan

Kis 2:17

Akan terjadi pada hari-hari terakhir -- demikianlah firman Allah -- bahwa Aku akan mencurahkan Roh-Ku ke atas semua manusia; maka anak-anakmu laki-laki dan perempuan akan bernubuat, dan teruna-terunamu akan mendapat penglihatan-penglihatan, dan orang-orangmu yang tua akan mendapat mimpi.

Kisah Para Rasul 2:17 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/act.2.17.TB

Saat roh Allah yang hidup memenuhi kita maka visi dan mimpi yang diberikan Tuhan akan memenuhi tujuan kita

Terlepas mimpi yang besar apa yang Dia sediakan jauh lebih besar drpd apa yang kita lihat, kita dengar, dan apa yang tersimpan dalam hati kita

Apa kita siap menjalani hidup sesuai agenda Tuhan?

Tidak semua orang menyebut dirinya orang percaya tidak berubah sikap dan pendirian mereka saat hidup tidak sesuai dengan apa yang mereka inginkan

Mempertanyakan kebaikan Tuhan

Bukan berarti kita tidak perlu berencana. Orang jerman tidak suka kejutan, mereka suka perencanaan yang sangat rinci dan detail.

Tuhan menyediakan apa yang mata saya belum pernah lihat. Telinga belum pernah dengar. Tuhan ingin intervensi dan interupsi. Sebagus apapun mimpi dan sedasyat apapun mimpi, sesungguhnya apa yang Tuhan sediakan

Saat maria dan yusuf di interupsi

Kelahiran Yesus Kristus adalah seperti berikut: Pada waktu Maria, ibu-Nya, bertunangan dengan Yusuf, ternyata ia mengandung dari Roh Kudus, sebelum mereka hidup sebagai suami isteri. Karena Yusuf suaminya, seorang yang tulus hati dan tidak mau mencemarkan nama isterinya di muka umum, ia bermaksud menceraikannya dengan diam-diam. Tetapi ketika ia mempertimbangkan maksud itu, malaikat Tuhan nampak kepadanya dalam mimpi dan berkata: “Yusuf, anak Daud, janganlah engkau takut mengambil Maria sebagai isterimu, sebab anak yang di dalam kandungannya adalah dari Roh Kudus.

Matius 1:18‭-‬20 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/mat.1.18-20.TB

Yusuf orang tulus hati, rencana mereka hancur berantakan tidak sesuai apa yang mereka rencanakan.

Lukas 1:28-29

Ketika malaikat itu masuk ke rumah Maria, ia berkata: “Salam, hai engkau yang dikaruniai, Tuhan menyertai engkau.” Maria terkejut mendengar perkataan itu, lalu bertanya di dalam hatinya, apakah arti salam itu.

Lukas 1:28‭-‬29 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/luk.1.28-29.TB

Maria terkejut takut, meskipun dia tau bahwa kehamilan ini supranatural. Kalau sedang mengalami intervensi Tuhan

1. Periksa ulang fokus kita

Apakah fokus kita kepada ketidaknyamanan dan kesulitan yang muncul atau memilih utk fokus memberi ruang lebih baik drpd apa yang kita rancangkan dalam kehidupan kita

Mereka harus memilih kepada masalah mereka kah atau memberi kesempatan untuk sesuatu yang lebih baik, lebih besar dalam kehidupan mereka

Memilih utk bertindak apa yang terjadi sebagai kasih karunia. Opportunity cost (nilai total yang kita keluarkan utk sebuah pilihan tapi nilai kehilangan yang kita alami karena tidak memilih yang lain)

Fokus mempermudah kita memilih prioritas. Hanya segala sesuatu tidak berjalan seperti yang kita inginkan bukan berarti masa depan kita tidak lebih baik

2. Memilih utk tetap percaya

Percaya bahwa Tuhan itu baik dan hanya mampu menyediakan yang baik. Tuhan tidak menyediakan lebih buruk daripada apa yang kita inginkan

Sebab Aku ini mengetahui rancangan-rancangan apa yang ada pada-Ku mengenai kamu, demikianlah firman Tuhan, yaitu rancangan damai sejahtera dan bukan rancangan kecelakaan, untuk memberikan kepadamu hari depan yang penuh harapan.

Yeremia 29:11 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jer.29.11.TB

Hanya karena sesuatu tidak berjalan sesuai yang kita inginkan bukan berarti kita tidak bs mencapai tujuan.

Memilih tetap percaya terlepas apapun yang kita alami. Percaya meskipun kita belum melihat hasilnya

3. Mengandalkan pertolongan Tuhan

Lukas 1:34-35

Kata Maria kepada malaikat itu: “Bagaimana hal itu mungkin terjadi, karena aku belum bersuami?” Jawab malaikat itu kepadanya: “Roh Kudus akan turun atasmu dan kuasa Allah Yang Mahatinggi akan menaungi engkau; sebab itu anak yang akan kaulahirkan itu akan disebut kudus, Anak Allah.

Lukas 1:34‭-‬35 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/luk.1.34-35.TB

Saat Tuhan intervensi dan interupsi kehidupan kita, respons kita mgkn bisa spt maria terkejut, takut, khawatir. Membayangkan apa yang mgkn terjadi rasa mustahil akan muncul bersamaan. Mana mungkin? Apa benar ???

Sebab Tuhan tidak akan membuang umat-Nya, dan milik-Nya sendiri tidak akan ditinggalkan-Nya;

Mazmur 94:14 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/psa.94.14.TB

4. Berjalan di dalam penyerahan dan ketaatan

Sebab bagi Allah tidak ada yang mustahil.”

Lukas 1:37 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/luk.1.37.TB

Kata Maria: “Sesungguhnya aku ini adalah hamba Tuhan; jadilah padaku menurut perkataanmu itu.” Lalu malaikat itu meninggalkan dia.

Lukas 1:38 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/luk.1.38.TB

Terjadilah padaku sesuai perkataan mu

kotbah 23 oktober 2022 ps jeffrey rachmat agenda Tuhan

Kotbah 23 oktober 2022

Ps jeffrey rachmat

Weekly verse

Matius 6:9-10

Sermon

We trust Him but we dont trust Him that much

Karena kita tidak punya pengenalan yang cukup

Kita tidak punya pengenalan yang baik ttg Tuhan

Yesaya 55:8-9

Rancanganku bukan rancanganmu

Jalanmu bukan jalanku

Spt tingginya langit dari bumi demikianlah tingginya jalanku dari jalanku dan rancanganku dari rancanganku

Seringkali kita ga sabar dengan jalan Tuhan dan kita ambil cara sendiri

Abraham tertawa waktu dengar suara Tuhan. Nenek umur 90 tahun hamil. Untuk ikut Tuhan kita harus percaya Tuhan dan punya iman. Cara Tuhan berbeda waktunya pun berbeda

Siapa yang pernah mikir bakal traktir 5000 orang ? Belum termasuk perempuan dan anak anak

Pemikiran murid tidak sama dengan pemikiran Tuhan. Cukup 5 roti dan 2 ikan bisa membuat orang kenyang

Waktu lazarus meninggal. Yesus tunggu 2 hari baru kemudian Dia datang. Bukan cuman rancanganNya tapi waktu dan jalanNya juga berbeda. 

Pengkotbah 3:11

Ia membuat segala sesuatu indah pada waktunya. Kalau belum indah berarti belum waktunya

Manusia tidak dapat menyelami pekerjaan Allah dari awal sampai akhir. Kita ga bs liat dari depan sampe belakang. How come? Bagaimana mungkin ini terjadi?

Kamu akan mengandung seorang juru selamat dan harus menamai dia, Yesus. Kamu gak tau kalau saya belum menikah? Masih perawan? Bagaimana mgkn ini terjadi?

Utk mengandung mereka harus mengubah semua rutinitas mereka. Tadinya ga mikirin anak tapi kemudian harus adapt dan adjust to the plan of God.

To follow Jesus we need to trust Him

Supaya kita mengenal pribadinya, mengerti karakternya. Seringkali Tuhan membawa kita menuju area yang kelihatannya impossible

He is God and we are not. Untuk bs percaya seperti itu kita perlu modal namanya iman. Tanpa iman tidak mgkn orang berkenan kepada Allah. 

Ibrani 11:6

He is the creator. Kita ini kreasinya Tuhan. Tentu Dia lebih tau kita daripada kita sendiri.

Kita ga bs percaya Tuhan secara konsisten dan untuk membawa kita kepada tingkat yang Tuhan mau kita berada, Tuhan blg come follow me walk with me. 

Seringkali undangan dari Tuhan buat kita merupakan gangguan

Undangan tersebut menyadarkan kita bahwa agenda Tuhan jauh lebih baik daripada agenda kita. 

Diproses Tuhan artinya kita dibawa pada tingkatan iman seperti yang Tuhan mau kita berada

Saat itu kalau sudah sampe sana maka kita punya ciri atau tanda hal yang tadinya buat kita marah dan takut sudah tidak lagi menyulitkan kita. Kalau sudah sampe sma pelajaran sd tidak lagi menyulitkan kita. 

Kalau berani dan mau taat diproses Tuhan iman tidak pernah sama lagi. Pengenalan akan Tuhan akan jauh lebih dalam. Interupsi Tuhan bs datang dalam bentuk macam macam, lamaran yang tertolak, jadwal yang ditunda. 

Tuhan selalu punya agenda yang lebih baik drpd kita. 

Mazmur 119:68

Tuhan itu baik dan hanya dapat berbuat baik. Kebaikan itu melekat kepada karakternya Tuhan

Setiap terima tawaran dari Tuhan. Beranikan diri utk berjalan dengan Dia. Iman bukan iman keroyokan tapi iman pribadi. 

Saudara-saudara yang kukasihi, janganlah sesat! Setiap pemberian yang baik dan setiap anugerah yang sempurna, datangnya dari atas, diturunkan dari Bapa segala terang; pada-Nya tidak ada perubahan atau bayangan karena pertukaran.

Yakobus 1:16‭-‬17 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jas.1.16-17.TB

Every good and perfect gift comes from the Lord

kotbah 9 okt 2022 ps kenny goh kisah dua pohon

 kotbah 9 okt 2022

kisah dua pohon 

ps kenny goh

weekly verse

efesus 2:10

Karena kita ini buatan Allah, diciptakan dalam Kristus Yesus untuk melakukan pekerjaan baik, yang dipersiapkan Allah sebelumnya. Ia mau, supaya kita hidup di dalamnya.

sermon

kita ada utk menyembah dan melayani Tuhan. Tuhan bukan sarana untuk kita meraih apa yang kita inginkan. kita semua diajak utk mengerti agenda Kristus

1. menyelamatkan semua manusia

2. meresponi panggilan

3. learn and fully trust God

apa mau ikut agenda dan kehendak Tuhan 

kejadian 1:26-28

1:26 Berfirmanlah Allah: "Baiklah Kita 1  o  menjadikan manusia 2  p  menurut gambar q  dan rupa r  Kita, supaya mereka berkuasa s  atas ikan-ikan di laut dan burung-burung di udara t  dan atas ternak dan atas seluruh bumi dan atas segala binatang melata yang merayap di bumi." 1:27 Maka Allah menciptakan u  manusia v  itu menurut gambar-Nya, w  menurut gambar Allah x  diciptakan-Nya dia; laki-laki dan perempuan y  diciptakan-Nya mereka. z  1:28 Allah memberkati mereka, lalu Allah berfirman kepada mereka: a  "Beranakcuculah dan bertambah b  banyak 3 ; penuhilah bumi c  dan taklukkanlah itu, berkuasalah atas d  ikan-ikan di laut dan burung-burung di udara dan atas segala binatang yang merayap di bumi. e "

manusia diciptakan untuk mewakili Tuhan seluruh ciptaan Tuhan

kejadian 2:8-9

2:8 Selanjutnya TUHAN Allah membuat taman di Eden, c  di sebelah timur 1 ; disitulah ditempatkan-Nya manusia yang dibentuk-Nya itu. 2:9 Lalu TUHAN Allah menumbuhkan berbagai-bagai pohon d  dari bumi, yang menarik dan yang baik untuk dimakan buahnya; dan pohon kehidupan 2  e  di tengah-tengah taman itu, serta pohon pengetahuan tentang yang baik dan yang jahat. f 

ada banyak pohon di taman eden, ada dua pohon yang dicatat di alkitab. pohon kehidupan dan pohon pengetahuan ttg baik dan jahat. 

Kejadian 2:16-17

2:16 Lalu TUHAN Allah memberi perintah ini kepada manusia 1 : "Semua pohon dalam taman n  ini boleh kaumakan buahnya dengan bebas, 2:17 tetapi pohon pengetahuan tentang yang baik dan yang jahat o  itu, janganlah kaumakan buahnya, sebab pada hari engkau memakannya, pastilah engkau mati. p "

pohon kehidupan kenapa ga boleh dimakan? karena membawa kehidupan. yang satunya membawa kematian. 

amsal 3:18

Ia menjadi pohon kehidupan bagi orang yang memegangnya, siapa yang berpegang padanya akan disebut berbahagia.

Amsal 11:30 (TB)

Hasil orang benar adalah pohon kehidupan, dan siapa bijak, mengambil hati orang.

Amsal 13:12 (TB)

Harapan yang tertunda menyedihkan hati, tetapi keinginan yang terpenuhi adalah pohon kehidupan.

Amsal 15:4 (TB)

Lidah lembut adalah pohon kehidupan, tetapi lidah curang melukai hati.

manusia mengakui sumber hikmat itu Tuhan

memakan pohon kehidupan berarti mengakui bahwa Tuhan adalah sumber kehidupan dan mengikuti agenda rencana Tuhan

Kejadian 3:4-7

3:4 Tetapi ular itu berkata kepada perempuan i  itu: "Sekali-kali kamu tidak akan mati 1 , 3:5 tetapi Allah mengetahui, bahwa pada waktu kamu memakannya matamu akan terbuka, dan kamu akan menjadi seperti Allah 2 , j  tahu tentang yang baik dan yang jahat." 3:6 Perempuan itu melihat, bahwa buah pohon itu baik untuk dimakan dan sedap kelihatannya, lagipula pohon itu menarik hati k  karena memberi pengertian. Lalu ia mengambil 3  dari buahnya dan dimakannya dan diberikannya juga kepada suaminya l  yang bersama-sama dengan dia, dan suaminyapun memakannya 4 . m  3:7 Maka terbukalah mata mereka berdua dan mereka tahu, bahwa mereka telanjang 5 ; n  lalu mereka menyemat daun pohon ara dan membuat cawat. o 

pohon pengetahuan baik dan jahat -- otonomi. terlihat baik, sedap, menarik hati. manusia mengabaikan rencana Tuhan dan menjadi Tuhan atas hidup sendiri. mengikuti apa yang menurut dirinya sendiri baik. akibatnya mereka mulai mengalami kematian. 

Amsal 14:12 TB. Ada jalan yang disangka orang lurus, tetapi ujungnya menuju maut. 

manusia sampai skrg terus bergumul mau makan pohon kehidupan atau pohon pengetahuan baik dan jahat

mau ikut Tuhan atau ikut cara sendiri?

Tuhan mau manusia meresponi agenda Tuhan

lukas 1:38

1:38 Kata Maria: "Sesungguhnya aku ini adalah hamba Tuhan; jadilah padaku menurut perkataanmu itu." Lalu malaikat itu meninggalkan dia

jika manusia pertama gagal membuat pilihan yang benar di taman eden

Yesus membuat pilihan yang benar

matius 26:39

Ayat 39. Maka Ia maju sedikit, lalu sujud dan berdoa, kata-Nya: "Ya Bapa-Ku, jikalau sekiranya mungkin, biarlah cawan ini lalu daripada-Ku, tetapi janganlah seperti yang Kukehendaki, melainkan seperti yang Engkau kehendaki."

Yesus tidak tunduk kepada keinginan dia sendiri

1 korintus 15:21-22

15:21 Sebab sama seperti maut datang karena satu orang manusia, h  demikian juga kebangkitan orang mati i  datang karena satu orang manusia. 15:22 Karena sama seperti semua orang mati dalam persekutuan dengan Adam, demikian pula semua orang akan dihidupkan kembali j  dalam persekutuan dengan Kristus.

apa artinya?

kita diperhadapkan dengan pilihan mau makan pohon pengetahuan atau pohon kehidupan?

yohanes 10:10

Pencuri datang hanya untuk mencuri dan membunuh dan membinasakan; Aku datang, supaya mereka mempunyai hidup, u  dan mempunyainya dalam segala kelimpahan. v 

galatia 2:20

namun aku hidup, tetapi bukan lagi aku sendiri yang hidup, melainkan Kristus yang hidup di dalam aku. Dan hidupku yang kuhidupi sekarang di dalam daging, adalah hidup oleh iman dalam Anak Allah yang telah mengasihi aku dan menyerahkan diri-Nya untuk aku.

Yesus adalah bukti bahwa Tuhan mengasihi kita

Tuhan tidak akan sabotase kehidupan kita

matius 6:9-10

Karena itu berdoalah demikian: Bapa kami yang di sorga, Dikuduskanlah nama-Mu, datanglah Kerajaan-Mu, jadilah kehendak-Mu di bumi seperti di sorga.

kalau Tuhan raja maka semua milik kita adalah milik Tuhan

bukan kita yang mendefenisikan kehidupan kita, agenda hidup kita. 

kotbah 2 oktober 2022 ps jusar badudu devoted to Christ agenda

Kotbah 2 oktober 2022

Devoted to Christ agenda

Ps jusar badudu

Seringkali rencana kita ga sejalan dengan rencana Tuhan

Either kita salah membuat rencana atau kita menjauh dari rencana Tuhan

Rencana kita dan Tuhan berbeda

Kita tau rencana Tuhan tapi kita kekeh dengan rencana kita sendiri?

Yesaya 55:8-9

Sebab rancangan-Ku bukanlah rancanganmu, dan jalanmu bukanlah jalan-Ku, demikianlah firman Tuhan. Seperti tingginya langit dari bumi, demikianlah tingginya jalan-Ku dari jalanmu dan rancangan-Ku dari rancanganmu.

Yesaya 55:8‭-‬9 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/isa.55.8-9.TB

Cerita ttg yunus

Nabi sering terima instruksi dr Tuhan dia disuruh ke kota niniwe utk bertobat

Karena niniwe banyak melakukan pelanggaran

Yunus diminta Tuhan utk mengabarkan kabar keselamatan. Dia pergi menjauh dari niniwe. Menjauh dari rencana Tuhan

4 sikap yunus 

Berprasangka dan menghakimi

Memikirkannya diri sendiri

Menjalankan dengan bad attitude

Yunus benci sama orang lain dan marah sama Tuhan

1. Frustrasi

Seolah olah Tuhan membelokkan rencana kita. 

Yunus 3:10

Ketika Allah melihat perbuatan mereka itu, yakni bagaimana mereka berbalik dari tingkah lakunya yang jahat, maka menyesallah Allah karena malapetaka yang telah dirancangkan-Nya terhadap mereka, dan Ia pun tidak jadi melakukannya.

Yunus 3:10 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.3.10.TB

Pernah ga frustrasi atas rencana Tuhan yang berbeda ?

2. Marah

Yunus 4:1

Tetapi hal itu sangat mengesalkan hati Yunus, lalu marahlah ia.

Yunus 4:1 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.1.TB

Jadi sekarang, ya Tuhan, cabutlah kiranya nyawaku, karena lebih baik aku mati dari pada hidup.”

Yunus 4:3 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.3.TB

3. Mengasihani diri

Self pity menghasihani diri sendiri

4. Depresi

Irasional. Depresi itu adalah kemarahan yang menelan kita terus menerus. Emosi muncul kalau kita pelihara kemarahan terus menerus.

Apa yang harus kita ingat kalau rencana kita ga sinkron sama Tuhan?

1. Tuhan dapat melihat sesuatu yang tidak dapat kita lihat

Layak kah engkau marah?

Tuhan bs melihat masa dan waktu setiap kehidupan kita. Kita harus percaya hikmat yang Tuhan percayakan.

Pengkotbah 3:11

Ia membuat segala sesuatu indah pada waktunya, bahkan Ia memberikan kekekalan dalam hati mereka. Tetapi manusia tidak dapat menyelami pekerjaan yang dilakukan Allah dari awal sampai akhir.

Pengkhotbah 3:11 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/ecc.3.11.TB

Ga selalu kita bs mengerti

Yunus 4:5

Yunus telah keluar meninggalkan kota itu dan tinggal di sebelah timurnya. Ia mendirikan di situ sebuah pondok dan ia duduk di bawah naungannya menantikan apa yang akan terjadi atas kota itu.

Yunus 4:5 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.5.TB

2. Tuhan tetap baik meski saya mengeluh

Lalu atas penentuan Tuhan Allah tumbuhlah sebatang pohon jarak melampaui kepala Yunus untuk menaunginya, agar ia terhibur dari pada kekesalan hatinya. Yunus sangat bersukacita karena pohon jarak itu.

Yunus 4:6 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.6.TB

Tuhan tetap perhatikan kita meskipun keadaan kita ga nyaman

Tuhan sering membuat kita menumbuhkan pohon jarak. 

3. Tuhan selalu pegang kendali dalam detail setiap keadaan

Kita tahu sekarang, bahwa Allah turut bekerja dalam segala sesuatu untuk mendatangkan kebaikan bagi mereka yang mengasihi Dia, yaitu bagi mereka yang terpanggil sesuai dengan rencana Allah.

Roma 8:28 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/rom.8.28.TB

Tetapi keesokan harinya, ketika fajar menyingsing, atas penentuan Allah datanglah seekor ulat, yang menggerek pohon jarak itu, sehingga layu.

Yunus 4:7 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.7.TB

Tuhan bs pakai apa saja 

Sebab Aku ini mengetahui rancangan-rancangan apa yang ada pada-Ku mengenai kamu, demikianlah firman Tuhan, yaitu rancangan damai sejahtera dan bukan rancangan kecelakaan, untuk memberikan kepadamu hari depan yang penuh harapan.

Yeremia 29:11 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jer.29.11.TB

Tuhan bs pakai sesuatu yang aneh utk menaungi kita, membuat kita aman, nyaman. Tuhan memunculkan sesuatu yang aneh buat kita. 

Tuhan mengasihi kita

Dia ada sejak awal sampai akhir di setiap kondisi kehidupan kita

Tetapi berfirmanlah Allah kepada Yunus: “Layakkah engkau marah karena pohon jarak itu?” Jawabnya: “Selayaknyalah aku marah sampai mati.”

Yunus 4:9 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.9.TB

Lalu Allah berfirman: “Engkau sayang kepada pohon jarak itu, yang untuknya sedikit pun engkau tidak berjerih payah dan yang tidak engkau tumbuhkan, yang tumbuh dalam satu malam dan binasa dalam satu malam pula. Bagaimana tidak Aku akan sayang kepada Niniwe, kota yang besar itu, yang berpenduduk lebih dari seratus dua puluh ribu orang, yang semuanya tak tahu membedakan tangan kanan dari tangan kiri, dengan ternaknya yang banyak?”

Yunus 4:10‭-‬11 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/jon.4.10-11.TB

Fokus kepada apa yang Tuhan taruh dan rencana yang sudah Tuhan tetapkan

Sebab kami tidak memperhatikan yang kelihatan, melainkan yang tak kelihatan, karena yang kelihatan adalah sementara, sedangkan yang tak kelihatan adalah kekal.

2 Korintus 4:18 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/2co.4.18.TB

Bagi Dialah, yang dapat melakukan jauh lebih banyak dari pada yang kita doakan atau pikirkan, seperti yang ternyata dari kuasa yang bekerja di dalam kita,

Efesus 3:20 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/eph.3.20.TB

Banyaklah rancangan di hati manusia, tetapi keputusan TUHANlah yang terlaksana.

Amsal 19:21 TB

https://bible.com/bible/306/pro.19.21.TB